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May 2008

IN CONVERSATION ...

... with Peter Carpmael MBE. Peter, who lives on South Green is a Second World War Veteran who suffered dreadful injuries at Monte Cassino. After the War he became Assistant Secretary and eventually Secretary to a national animal welfare charity called “Our Dumb Friends League” which was subsequently re-named “The Blue Cross”. He is the author of the recently published “Was There Ever Seen Such Villainy” which was reviewed in last month’s Southwold Organ. Click here to read the review.

Where were you born and brought up?
I was born in 1920 in Hampstead, London. My parents fairly quickly moved out to where I was brought up, which was a growing housing estate outside Guildford in Surrey. At first it was mainly a vast area of poppy fields and as I grew I watched it build up (but not spoiled) with quite nice little houses. It had the great distinction, which I am sure has affected me, that there were all shades of background in the community. So it was totally democratic. The question of class, which I find absolutely abhorrent, quite naturally never arose in my life. So that was splendid. The only unpleasant thing was most of the boys I grew up with were killed in the war.

Did you attend a local school?
No, I was sent to Oundle School near Peterborough. It was one of those curious family things. I had two very successful cousins who went there. One of them was Philip Carpmael, an exceptional man and a brilliant rower at Cambridge. In the early days I used to be fascinated by him because he always seemed to be in the newspapers. He led a team for two years running to Australia where they won easily against extremely tough opposition. Despite his successes he was totally modest and such a nice man; I was always very fond of him. He married twice and his second wife was great fun. He used to be very involved with the Henley on Thames Regatta, and I had the privilege of being invited each year. Mind you, rowing can be a little boring for the spectator. You sit waiting on a barge and suddenly two chaps come whizzing past and then they’ve gone and it’s all over. One of the funny things was the way they put out the information about winners – in a rather unkind way I often thought, for the boat which had been lagging – it would be said that the race had been won easily.

When Philip was in his late forties, he raced against a young man who was just starting, but who was recognised as having brilliant potential. Part of the skill in rowing is to have an understanding of everything that’s happening about you, such as the flow of the river and the weather conditions. With his years of experience and his knowledge of the river, Philip knew exactly how to get ahead and he won the race easily. The sad thing was that the boy never rowed again. Defeat by this funny old man in his forties put him off, which was very sad.

Later Philip was still rowing at the age of 70 against his sons; he was quite remarkable.
At school, having looked on at my cousin’s achievements, I wanted to do the same and so put my name down for rowing. It didn’t happen though because I was told that I couldn’t participate – something about a bad heart. Well, here I am at 87 still boring the pants off everybody who’ll listen so they must have got something wrong there. For me going to Oundle was simply following in a family tradition. I didn’t do anything very successful there, but the one thing that I really had a fixation on at school was Christopher Marlowe. I was enthralled by his work and in particular his
play Dr Faustus, which we studied. I was totally lifted by his incredibly beautiful poetry. That carried on through my life and was always with me. Eventually of course it turned up in my book.

I read that you were a bit of a daredevil at school and that you performed handstands on the church roof.
Oh dear, oh dear – well its true I’m afraid. I was an awful show off. It was pretty easy to find a way up the outside of quite small churches. But I always made sure not to attempt to stand on my hands outwards. I would always do it inwards so that if I fell over I would fall comfortably. There was nothing very daring about it, but of course I made sure a cousin of mine took a picture of me.

What did you do after school?
I left school at the end of the summer term in 1938 when I was 18 and went to a school of physical education in Denmark. It was run by a very nice, but eccentric professional chap who was married to an English woman. There were close ties between him and an athletics district in Cardiff in Wales. It was called the Fredensborg English College for Physical Education. It had a rather nice badge, which incorporated the Rose of England and a Viking Ship. There were about twenty-five of us altogether and about a third came from Welsh Wales. They were great lads and we had lots of fun. I found all their different backgrounds amazing and simply loved the mix. Many of them were there because they honestly wanted to get a qualification in order to get a good job. It was hard to get a job at all in those days. It was very good for me to be with these lads because, having come from a privileged school, I was totally unaware of this.

I met some fascinating people and experienced a marvellous mix of ideas. Out of the twenty-five, I remember one was on the ocean liners as a swimming instructor, another was a professional football player, and another was a welterweight boxing champion.

Of course, while we were there we bumped into the local populus – the place was full of stunning girls. It was absolutely marvellous.

We saw, for those days, some quite extraordinary things. Denmark was closely related in trade to Britain, but also to America and they were far advanced socially through their contacts with America. One of the amazing things we attended was a huge building with stalls high up looking down on to a stadium. Suddenly, during one performance the stadium sank down and filled up with water, then from down in the depths of the water a rock slowly rose bearing a naked girl like the Little Mermaid Statue which stands in the Harbour at Copenhagen. I also remember seeing a whole area of glass come straight down. We were agog at seeing these startling things.

We were only there for about 9 months, but were lucky enough to be invited by the principal to attend a world celebration of the 150th anniversary of the concept of physical education, the Lingiad held at Stockholm. It was just before the war broke out and people attended from all over the world. It was set around islands and there were lots of motorboats. I particularly remember some members of the awful German Nazi Youth being there in a beautiful white yacht. They jeered at us – “you English are so lazy you never learn anybody’s language”. Of course that was absolutely right, but their arrogance stood out. They were astonishing – Hitler was making the most of them. Mind you everybody else was astonishing too. There were brilliant performances over the period of a whole week and we saw all kinds of displays.

Did you begin to see changes with the war coming?
Yes, we went home at Christmas time – just before 1939 and saw barrage balloons up. We also met sailors who’d been on ships that had been bombed in the Spanish Civil War and suddenly we realised that things weren’t going to be normal in the future. When we came home the second time there were sand bags in London - it was all building up I’m afraid. As soon as war was declared I immediately joined the Army. I was given the King’s shilling and was so stupid then I said “Oh no thanks awfully” and tried to give it back. I soon got a bit of the army flavour - “Don’t be silly lad”

Were you given a choice about what you would do?
As happens in the Army, I was sent to the Buffs. I joined them at Canterbury in March 1939. That summer the whole of the Battle of Britain happened over our heads. One astonishing day we were out on manoeuvres in fields outside the town when we heard a tremendous noise, and felt a sort of shaking. I can’t exaggerate what we saw when we looked up. The sky was black with aircraft. There were hundreds and hundreds of them going over towards poor London. One of the stories of the time was that because the Germans had got thousands of pilots, many of them perhaps trained in a hurry, it was useful for them to make sure that Canterbury Cathedral stayed put as a landmark for them. They simply flew to Canterbury and turned right for London.

Being so close to the Battle of Britain was an extraordinary experience and we began to get the feel of war.

How long did the training last?
It was roughly a year’s initial training. I did six months training with the Buffs and three months officer’s training. After Canterbury, I was with a unit where we were selected for Officer’s Training and posted to the Isle of Man. We arrived just before Christmas 1939 and another typical Army thing happened. We were told we could go home for Christmas. Of course we didn’t mind at all, but my poor parents had to find food for me when I turned up at home in Surrey. When I was commissioned I joined the South Staffordshire Regiment near Northumberland. That was exciting.

What next?
I was sent abroad. We went first to Scotland (you never knew what was going to happen) and were put onto a huge vessel on the Clyde. We had heard murmurs about “The Mary” and it eventually dawned on us that we were on the Queen Mary. You won’t believe this but we went out to Egypt on the Queen Mary and we were over three months at sea. We stopped at Cape Town for about ten days because there were Japanese submarines about. All these wonderful big ships were one of the reasons we were able to win the war. Commissioning them enabled the armed forces to ship large divisions across the sea in order to carry on the war. Subsequently the Queen Mary did regular trips backwards and forwards from America bringing American troops over to England.

The Queen Mary is a huge vessel but with a division of troops on board it became like a little tug. There were a number of tragic deaths on the way out, I suppose because of the crowded conditions. The seas were vast – you often couldn’t see the sky and the way the ship trembled at the bottom was quite astonishing. I also remember that two boys died on the train on the way up to the desert.

What happened when you arrived in Egypt?
Well, we eventually landed in Port Said. That night the Germans tried to bomb the Mary but fortunately didn’t manage to hit her. The allies had got these Swedish Bofors, which were enormous anti-aircraft guns and they were firing them very low over our tents. There was a tremendous racket going on what with the Bofors and various kinds of small arms fire going up as well. Of course what goes up has to come down, so consequently there was all sorts of rubbish falling around us in all directions. This was our introduction to it all.

As we went up beside the Suez Canal to the desert we saw vast German prisoner of war camps. The prisoners were jumping up and down making signs to us that they wanted to cut our throats.
In no time at all I was put in a great 100-yard line of young officers and we were allowed to choose which regiment we would go to. There were people from all the regiments waving their flags and you went and joined them if you wished. I didn’t want to make any choice – I thought if fate is going to do what it will - let it. Anyway, I got pushed off to a famous unit of the 8th Army called the Green Howards. I’d come from the Buffs whose regimental name had originally been the Buff Howards so that was a coincidence.

We arrived just before Alamein. I got stuck in a military hospital outside Alexandria with about three major infections. It was common to pick up Sand Fly Fever, and all sorts of infections. After a while, they released me from hospital for a week’s leave and I went to the station to get a train. One of the Africans shouted to me that I was about to get on the wrong train, and as I started to leave it he changed his mind. By this time the train was moving; I was so weak from the illnesses that I stumbled and ended up hanging on to the underside of the train wedged between the train and the rail. Fortunately the chap who had caused the accident shouted to the driver and he stopped, otherwise I would have departed there and then. That was a bit of luck.

Was that the end of your time in Egypt?
No, I recovered from my illnesses, but we were frequently up and down from the desert with odd infections.

It was a rather odd atmosphere with the 8th Army. They were holding the line and desperately needed reserves, but they’d got this elitism. We were referred to as “get your knees brown” because we hadn’t been out in the sun long enough to get brown. It was silly - there was a sheer distinction made and it was clear we weren’t welcome. It was very uncomfortable on the Alamein line. We were at the Southern section with the Mediterranean in the North. Alamein itself was just a little railway station. At the bottom was a whole area of soft sand where only specialist troops could get through.

Permanently in the desert you had to be constantly jumping off tanks or transport and
helping to push or dig vehicles out. But in this area it was a hundred percent worse. We in the Southern sector felt very comforted when we looked through glasses and saw masses of British tanks. We later found they were cardboard cut-outs used to deceive the enemy. There were lots of deceptive arrangements made to deceive the enemy such as false pipelines. Of course it was vital for them to know from where the attack was to come. In the end, as you know, the attack wasn’t in the South or North, but along the whole line.

I can’t really remember the details but I got injured. One of these war time accidents; some shrapnel in my shoulder I think. This resulted in me being off for some time. What used to happen if you were sick or floating was that they would put you on a course. Well, I was put on a very rigorous course and just happened to do well. As a result I was offered the post of instructor at a new unit called the Allied School Of Infantry in North Africa. The School had been created in Algeria by General Alexander as a place for troops coming out of action where they could combine a holiday and some infantry training. It was a very good move for me, as I was there for six months and had great fun. Hot sunshine and nice people, with a good mix of American, French and English troops. There was a noticeable distinction between the nationalities though. The Americans and English simply wanted to get the war over and go home, but the French troops wanted to kill Germans. It is a dramatic memory, but a truth. Their country was overrun and being wrecked by the Germans.

What happened when your six months were up?
From there I was sent to the 2nd Battalion the Royal Fusiliers, so I finally got back into a Regiment. The Regiment went back to Egypt for special training and then back up the Mediterranean at just about the time when the Italians joined the allies. I was with a unit in Italy and we had several clashes with the enemy. Then I was finally sent to Cassino. I had twenty-one men and we were on the front line holed up in a badly knocked about building. The German line was less than 100 yards away. It had been a tough time because the area had been under constant bombardment. You had to be very careful moving about – it was an absolute mess, with bombed ruins everywhere. They had a thoroughly sensible idea of stretching white tape out. This helped us in the ruins, (especially in the dark) to find our way from one position to another simply by following the white line. The units stayed on the front line for about a fortnight at a time. There was a constant barrage – it was really quite exciting – of smoke bombs from the artillery. Shells would be filled with small smoke bombs and would be fired to explode in a strategic position to give cover while the food and ammunition supplies were brought up. That’s how it worked. There was a tremendous racket of course with all the firing.

Well we got shot up - it happened at twenty past one in the afternoon. We were either having or just finishing a meal. Some of us were sitting on a stretcher (which was there ready for use if needed) and others were stretched out on either side. There was a large black box of grenades on the ground. You never primed a grenade unless you were going to use it because it was dangerous. But we were so close to the enemy that we never knew when we might need them. At this particular time the whole box of grenades had been primed.

Everybody I spoke to afterwards said they heard nothing, but I heard this bomb right from the top. A mortar bomb goes up, stops, turns over then descends in a straight drop. I heard it coming all the way down with a loud swoooooosssshhh - a ghastly noise. It struck the edge of the concrete roof, so we were showered with hot metal and powdered concrete. Of the twenty-one of us, seven were killed outright, seven, like me, were badly hurt, and the other seven got chips and chops. So that was a useful piece of mortar from the enemy’s view.

After the hit were you conscious of what was going on around you?
Yes, I found myself flat on my back and could see the box of grenades nearby belching black smoke with flames coming out of it. I realised that this was the first thing to overcome and shouted, “for God’s sake somebody put that out or we are all going up”. Fortunately, troops managed to extinguish the fire – so that was the first hurdle. Then we waited for the whole meticulous business to be carried out. In that kind of situation great care is taken to ensure that everything is done militarily and correctly. Morale is a serious consideration, and what happens to the dead is very important to those who survive. The medics and the priests were always very highly regarded by the troops. All the dead were carefully carried and laid outside ready to be picked up later.
While we were sorting ourselves out, we had to contend with the sound of a gun called a Nebelwerther, which had recently been brought in by the Germans. It was a unit with about six cylinders, which all fired bombs together sending out a shower of mortars. They were known as “sobbing sisters” because of the sound they made when they were lobbed. It was a completely different sound to that of shellfire and we didn’t like it.

I suppose they began moving us out at about twenty past ten that night. It was difficult to get us out because a human body is so heavy. Another obstacle was that great parts of the area were covered with water having been deliberately flooded to keep the enemy out. So as we were carried along, the enemy mortars were plunging in the water around us. That reminded me of photographs I had seen of ships at sea being bombed. Anyway, we bumped along until we finally came to a knocked out building where the medics dealt with us. Finally we were taken by ambulance to a hospital and then gradually back and back.

You say you were badly hurt, do you mind telling me about it?
Well I can show you. My wristwatch was blown through my wrist here. I got a large piece of metal through my delicate left ankle, and the calf of my right leg was cut in half lengthwise. It was literally shaved in half. I need sticks now but I am fortunate – I can get about and I still drive. I never forget that I am just lucky to be alive.

I find it hard to imagine how you and your men stayed there from twenty past one until past ten o’clock that evening with such terrible injuries.

The thing is, however appalling a situation is you just have to get on with it. You haven’t any option.
All troops carry a small first aid emergency pack in a little pocket. In addition the unit would carry a larger pack of shell dressings. In the case of my leg, which was a very large wound, someone produced a shell dressing to put on it. Not much we could do but just lie there. When it first happened I could hear a sort of “sshh sshh” noise and suddenly realised it was the sound of my bleeding. I have spoken to a doctor since and apparently it is all about the angle at which you are struck. If it is a sheer cut straight across you are unlikely to survive because you can’t repair. If your injury is a diagonal cut there is a chance of it automatically trying to repair. That must have been what happened to me and so I survived.


Do you remember much about what happened next?
I can’t really remember how long I spent in that first hospital – about three weeks or so I suppose. I was probably saved by the introduction of penicillin. It was painful and you had to have it every three hours for a fortnight.

Everybody was very helpful – appalled of course. Eventually I was lucky and got home. On the ship, I have a very sad memory of a pretty nurse dancing to some dance music with a Canadian officer. He was about my age, blinded and covered with black pockmarks from an exploded mine. I shall never forget the look of absolute despair on his face.

It was almost two years after I first left that I landed back where I’d started - in the Clyde. I was then taken across to this wonderful, beautifully run hospital in Scotland, which had been created for injured troops. It was so sad and very uncomfortable to see the wives and sweethearts coming to see what was left of their husbands and boyfriends.

There was a boy who had come under fire on patrol at night and he’d been paralysed. His troops had carried him back unaware that they were mauling his legs en route. He was in a pretty sad state. We were together for about a month on the same ward. We used to sing some silly songs, one of which was “pistol packing momma”. I can remember him singing that song at about 3 o’clock one morning as he went to a better world.

I was one of the lucky ones, but I had to repair and it took a long time. It wasn’t until a year later that I was just beginning to walk - all these things have to be learned.

When you recovered, and obviously it took you a very long time, what was the next step for you?
The next step was finding a job - especially when I fell in love. I know this is all being recorded and it can’t be evaded; I had three fiancés. I ended up getting rid of them but it was all amicably done. Then I met my darling so I needed to get to work. Eventually I went to the British Legion and they found me a job. The organisation I joined had the appalling name of “Our Dumb Friends League” - marvellous charity - silly name. It came out of the era of Queen Victoria and the name was chosen because it appealed to the sentimentality of those days.

In 1912 the League had launched “The Blue Cross Fund” to assist animals during the Balkan War. This help extended to other conflicts including the First and Second World Wars. During the wars the charity had set up hospitals for horses in Europe. This had huge public support and large amounts of money were raised. Afterwards, there was a residue of money to deal with, which led to all sorts of complications with the Charity Commission – you can hardly use money raised for horses in war when there aren’t any horses being used in war. Anyway to cut a long story short, we found a way of keeping the legacies.

We changed the name of the charity to “The Blue Cross” (with “incorporating Our Dumb Friends League” in brackets). It has remained the same but we just stick to “The Blue Cross” title - very nice too - a simple thing to remember.

There were something like fifty odd branches of all sorts, including hospitals, but our financial situation wasn’t good. It is all very well to be loved by the public, but its no help to anyone if you can’t afford to run the organisation. With a great deal of heartbreak we decided to reduce the branches considerably - down to about twelve.

We had to be quite ruthless and it was very uncomfortable, but we made it work. All the money we saved from the properties we closed we put back in, and then began creating new ones. We are now up to just short of twenty, including some big hospitals. There is a marvellous hospital in Grimsby in Lincolnshire, and various other units stretching round the country. The original Victoria Animal Hospital, which opened in 1906 to provide veterinary care to the animals of poor people, is still the main hospital, having undergone extension and refurbishment over the years.
It is a very professionally run organisation with a marvellous team of veterinary surgeons. We always had qualified vets but standards are constantly being raised.

How did you meet your wife?
Before I joined the charity in 1947, which was the year we got married, I had been working in a boys’ prep school. I was back with my parents is Surrey. (My father was an actuary and my mother was a most marvellous extrovert; a total female. She was lovely – great fun. There was only me and I was totally spoilt.)

Anyway, one day I was drinking beer in the local pub with this funny old boy and he told me that he was Headmaster of the nearby school (the school had moved from the coast to this safer location). He ended up offering me a job. I told him I had no qualifications, but he said it didn’t matter, so I spent a year there teaching. Ann had been nursing at St Thomas’s Hospital in London, but because of the bombing they also moved out to country premises in Surrey. One of the boys at the school heard that I was having treatment at “Tommy’s” hospital and he said “Oh Sir, you should see my sister” and that’s how it started. She was perfect and a wonderful nurse. They make the best mums and we were lucky enough to have three boys.

Do your sons live nearby?
All my three boys live in East Anglia now. Patrick, the eldest lives near Cromer and teaches English at The Norwich School. James, the youngest is an actor and is married to an actress. They live just outside Norwich. He works in a charity museum where they take school children to teach them about the past. He takes the parts of historical figures such as a Victorian headmaster and so on. My middle son John is at Woodbridge. He teaches the Alexander Technique which is about balance. He is also a homoeopathist. He has a thriving practice of roughly half and half. Its great to have them all near and I see them every week. I am lucky.

Tell me about your recently published book
I always wanted to write and over the years I suppose I have written seven books. This is the last one, which is probably a re-invention of something I have written before. It is an adventure story in which I have been able to draw on my own wartime experiences and my lifelong interest in Christopher Marlowe. I can’t remember whether it was this book or another one, but I had one of them back from various publishers at least forty times. I was persistent. I got to the stage where I decided that this couldn’t go on. So we got a quote from a good English firm of Publishers, but it was too much. The boys found a Canadian firm that came up with a figure, which wasn’t too bad. They keep their cost to a minimum by only printing as many copies they know they can sell. I’ve had nice reports from people who’ve enjoyed it.

What was your MBE awarded for?
I have had a very happy life with no great successes. I was awarded the MBE for what I suppose you could regard as long service with the Blue Cross. I was just the Secretary for a very long time. It was fun when I went with Ann to the palace. It is an amusing ceremony with the Guards band playing on the balcony and the Queen surrounded by high-ranking members of the armed forces handing out the medals. I think it was the Queen who put mine on me, but I’m not sure whether that’s just my memory playing tricks. Anyhow, when I was in front of her, she said quite simply “staff or voluntary?” I replied “staff”, and she nodded and I moved on. That was that – but we did enjoy the day.

What brought you to Southwold?
Most of our married life was spent in Surrey, but we were regular visitors to Suffolk.

Ann’s family originally came from Norfolk and they used to go to Southwold every year for their holidays. The other tie was that Ann had been to St Felix School.

We were very lucky that both Ann’s mother and her brother each had a holiday home here and we always came for our holidays.

Later, when the children were grown up, we sometimes went instead to Northumberland because it is such a thrilling place and I have very fond memories of my time there during the war. I love the open wild countryside and the lovely people and the beautiful Tyneside accent.

We came to live in Southwold when I retired at the age of 65. We had heard about this house being on the market the year before and were determined to have it, but we hadn’t got any money! It was on the market for £80,000. You know how it is everybody knows best and some who knew us were shocked that we were contemplating spending so much money. In fact we got it for £79,000. We were so lucky that it all worked out thanks to Ann’s aunt. They had been great friends, and when she died, at the age of 90, she left a large part of her money to Ann. At the time we made the offer for the house we had no idea about the legacy. I wasn’t sure how we would manage, but knew it was something we had to do. Then that happened – luck again.

We have lived here for 24 years. Ann died in April last year and my world came to an end. She had been ill for about 3 years with this awful Alzheimers. It was beastly but we had some marvellous carers and, here again, the luck to be able to afford to pay for them. I know that people can achieve savings through their lives but they are nothing like the amounts that can be required in certain situations. In the end she wasn’t really in this world; it was very sad. We celebrated our diamond wedding anniversary on the day before she died. She was wonderful and we had a marvellous life together

 
 
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